WELCOME!


Welcome! I'm so glad you have taken the first steps to increase your self-awareness, ease emotional pain and develop methods to live more comfortably in your body, mind and spirit. As a lover of the arts, and a believer in having a sense of humor in life, I bring both my life experiences and my professional training to my work as a licensed marriage and family therapist and art therapist. I love what I do and I enjoy introducing those who come to me for help, new ways of thinking and developing a more loving and kinder way of relating to themselves. May you find peace in all you do.


Psychotherapy and The Art of Knowing Oneself


Someone asked me once, do you ever really know who you are? Now we are getting existential. We all have to develop a sense of Who we are based on our self-esteem, values, beliefs, etc. So, as starters, I can help you look at some of these tough questions along with building a strong sense of self. My speciality is working with women, but I do see men too. There is nothing harder than trying to live your life with depression and or anxiety. They are tough. I can help you learn tools to manage both.  I incorporate art therapy techniques as well as I traditional "talk" therapy to help clients manage sabotaging thoughts and behaviors. This typically includes cognitive behavioral therapy, which means exploring how our thoughts affect our feelings.  I have found that when we begin to look at and manage our thoughts, we begin to feel better. A pattern of thinking usually begins when we are very young, such as, "I'm not good enough," or "I'm not loveable," etc. These types of thoughts are called "core beliefs," and are the lens we look at ourselves with and the world. I encourage clients to keep a journal to be aware of their thought patterns. 

ART THERAPY AND ART MAKING




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The practice of  creative work becomes a mirror to our internal world helping us gain wisdom, peace, healing and solutions to problems.  Whether it is perfectionism, anxiety, depression, physical pain or other obstacles to feeling whole and more relaxed and accepting of yourself, art allows you space to feel safe and free to explore your authentic self. Many times, answers and wisdom come to us while we are calm and in a relaxed state...here is where the wisdom resides!

A creative practice:

  • Aids in Managing depression, anxiety, and stress
  • Improves motivation and focus
  • Provides time for you
  • Adds joy to your lif


Mask Making July 2016



Mask Making Gang

Lastly, if you are a woman lacking motivation, or living with a chronic illness or wanting to feel happier and more content in your life, I might just be the creative guide and/or therapist you are looking for.  I offer in person, group and workshop sessions. Many challenges can get in the way of getting to an office appointment therefore, traditional in office sessions are not always an option. There is nothing worse than being in emotional pain, wanting support and guidance, but not having the energy or time to make it across town. Having choices is what women need today.   


April 2016 Women and Creativity

Tissue Paper Art
Archetype Flash Cards
Painting Experience Weekend Workshop - "Kali"

WORRY SOS

Colored pencils
Do you WORRY about things that haven't happened yet? Do you live in the past and the future and NOT the present?  If your answer is YES, most likely you live with ANXIETY and WORRY. When you don't live in the moment, you create many WHAT-IF's. What if's create a sense of unknown and a sense of having no control.  My belief is that anxiety and worry mask what you are actually FEELING.  For instance, what is behind your WORRY?  If you were to take the mask of worry off, what would be left? Sadness? Fear? Aloneness?  Is it possible you might be experiencing any of these feelings?  What would happen if you felt the feelings instead of the anxiety?
Tissue paper collage mandala


ANGER


Anger is just one of the primal emotions that if not understood or expressed constructively, can sabotage a person's relationships, career, academic life and one's ability to live an emotionally healthy life.  From a young age, we are given messages either consciously or unconsciously from those around us about our feelings and how or how not to express them. Anger, if not taken care of, is one emotion that can have us responding aggressively towards others or, kept inside of us causing health and emotional problems down the road. So, learning how to express anger constructively is vital to your well being. One way we can express anger is through art. Though, I will give you some tips on how to get to know your anger and steps you can take to calm yourself in the face of the anger beast.

First of all. What do you know about your anger? Do you have a tendency to lash out at others? Does your anger make you sad? Does your anger scare you and those around you? What were you taught about anger growing up? Were you allowed to be angry in your home? I don't mean throw or hit things or people, but were you given permission to say I'm really angry and I need help, or, were you told it's not OK to be angry? What do you do with your anger now? How do you take care of yourself when you feel angry? Let me give you some ideas on ways you can take care of your anger when it surfaces.
 Get to know your anger, i.e, don't push it down.  What you might want to do the next time you feel angry is:
1. Don't React!
2. Breath - Focus on your breathing.
3. Think before you speak.
4. Listen to other's opinions.
5. Walk away if you feel yourself getting ready to strike out at someone or something.
6. Go some place safe and hit a pillow.

In terms of art, I recommend you identify the color of your anger. How big is your anger? Does it take up the entire piece of paper or just a small area? What shape is your anger? If your anger were an animal, what would it be?  What are the triggers of your anger? How do you know when you are angry?

ART EXERCISE.
On a piece of paper, create an image of your anger. In other words, create a picture that represents your anger using, colored pencils, crayons, paint, collage or any medium you wish. What art material you use is not important. Give your anger a name. When you are finished with your art, you might want to dialogue with it. On another piece of paper, I'd like you to create a picture that represents what you know about your anger. The triggers, what helps you when you're angry?  Who can you talk to when you are angry? These are all important things to know about your anger and ways to take care of yourself when you do get angry. Also, identify in your body where you feel your anger and sooth that area as you breath and take some time out.

Peace.


Psychology of Color

Have you ever noticed how color can shift your mood? Color is all around us. But what is color?  "Color is light and energy." (www.arttherapyblog.com.) I've purposely created this post with many colors for you to see your reaction to the various colors. An example of how color can affect our mood is Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which causes some individuals to experience depression in the winter months, when darkness arrives. Or, have you experienced a shift in mood when you look at a rainbow? It is really amazing how color can affect our state of being and it is important to know what colors calm us, excite us, bring us down, etc.  For the exercise below, you can mix colors or use the colors as they are. 

INTENTION for the Day

  I used to cringe when I heard the word "intention." I heard it used in ways that felt "cult-like." But I've come to find the word inspiring and helpful in moving through the day. So, what idea, purpose or intention would you would like to guide you through this Friday, September 14th? Is it calm? How about assertiveness? Do you need to be more authentic? Trusting of yourself?  What about having an intention of staying in the moment? 



Here is your art directive for the day:

Think of an intention you would like to guide you today.

Pick any medium you would like to use and create an image that represents that intention.

You can make it as large or small as you wish since you might want to carry it with you today.

After you create your image, look at it for a few minutes and really take the image in.

Ask the image to stay with  you.

Ask it if it has any messages for  you.

Reflect on the image throughout the day.

And, go peacefully through the day with your intention close at hand.
Peace,
Victoria

WELCOME!

Welcome! I'm so glad you have taken the first steps to increase your self-awareness, ease emotional pain and develop methods to liv...